pathological

[tamidon]

When I started cooking there were very few women in kitchens, less than even today's low numbers,and I was very concious of it. I never asked for help with heavy things unless it would cause me serious injury, or if it was something any guy in the place would ask for help with. Skip up to taday, and I'm still like that. I never ask for help, and I almost always refuse offers of help. I went today to our butcher to pick up a case of veal bones. The guy brings it up and yells,"hey Joey, can you take it out to her car?" I tell him "Don't worry I got it."
Joey shows up 'let me take that out to your car"

"No really, I've got it"

"You sure you can carry that?"

grr...

"Son, I've been in this business too long to let boys help me carry my shit, really"

Throw 45# box up on my shoulder and walk out the door...

Comments

[fidgetmonster.livejournal.com]

the same thing happens to me in the garden industry. only once did someone get really *insistent* that they help, and that bugged me, but it was almost a customer service thing. The latino boys who i collaborate with sometimes are always offering to carry shit for me, but they do it in more of a chivalrous way, like running ahead of me to grab something before i can do it--then they blush shyly because they think they're helping me. which is kind of nice, because the white guys wait, leaning against the shovels, to see you bend over so they can look at your ass.

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

trowa_barton tends to be chivalrous in that way...opens doors, waits for me to go ahead, stuff like that. I'm still not always used to it (and that's probably okay, as I don't want to take it for granted), but he's very sweet about it and I find it charming coming from him. :-}